Dating a guy with a child

This is what people mean when they say "it's a package deal."These days, with the divorce rate hovering close to 50 percent, the likelihood of dating a man with children is pretty high.

Dating a divorced dad has many unique challenges that you won’t face with childless men.

I'm trying to overcome the bond that they have that I don't have with him.

I have never dated a guy with a kid before, I haven't ever wanted to take on the challenge before, except this guy is mere perfect.

James and I met on a snowboarding holiday in early 2011, and he was perfect for my non-committal tendencies.

Recently separated from his wife of five years, he was proud dad to a three-year-old boy, and living in his parents’ spare bedroom awaiting a divorce settlement. The prospect of me – a carefree woman not yet 30 – dating a man with kids was met with fear and trepidation by my friends. The only thing she’d previously seen me take responsibility for was which pub we should go to for a night out, and I often got that wrong.

If you really like a guy, here’s what you need to know, to help you navigate the waters of dating a man with kids.

They have different obligations and aren’t looking for women to walk in and out of their life. If you’re still in the phase of getting drunk every weekend and spending your Sundays in bed sobering up, then you’re not ready.But I make it to the park after almost turning back, to find James* (my boyfriend) clutching a Pokémon rucksack and an armful of coat, from which a pair of huge eyes and a half-smile appear.I wave awkwardly at this tiny yet enormously significant human being – all gangly limbs and pretending to be a dinosaur. I have no idea how I got here, but in this moment I realise that life as I know it is about to change.I'm trying to overcome the fact that the guy I am dating has a really really really cute son.He is divorced and has as little as possible to do with the ex-wife.